Lori- I’m so sorry your kid is going through that. It’s one of my greatest fears as a parent. My 5 year old has already been targeted when he was in pre k. I don’t know if it’s because he has 2 moms, because his nails were done, or because kids are just assholes. My wife and I ended up putting him in Taekwando to help with self esteem and also for him to know how to defend himself. 4 kids tackled him at school and Wouldn’t let him up and kept on doing it until he finally got away. I was a MAD mama bear.
It’s a hard lesson to learn that not everyone is nice. I was bullied in school and I had hoped better for him. It breaks my heart.
How does she feel about things? Have the teachers and other adults addressed the bullying? So they have any inclusive curriculum. I live in Bible Belt Oklahoma where religion teaches that my wife and I are going to hell.
I agree kids can be evil and even if being targeted is bad itself, I can't even imagine what a mother could feel when it's their kid's matter.
As a fellow targeted kid back in the days, I can assure you that fear for pain and low battling self esteem have strongly affected my lack of backlash, so I believe that taekwondo can indeed be a good effort.
Hi Rachel! Thank you for your response and sharing your experience as well. It is disheartening to hear this happen all too often with our little innocent humans.
To answer some of your questions, last week ended on a high note for her at school. It warmed her heart to hear Sara's advice (core memory unlocked). Sadly this isn't the first time she has defend herself and/or our family dynamic. The first time was at the tender age of 3 in daycare. We, as her parental unit, had numerous discussions about how to handle these situations as they before birth. It doesn't matter how prepared you are, it still hurts a little.
We have taken them to every pride parade since birth and have introduced them to other little humans with 2 moms. She knows she is loved but we live in an era of discrimination and prejudice being taught at home. May all our little humans find the courage to stand up for what they believe in and never be ashamed to speak of love.
It's sad your kid is getting bullied so early, it's sad he has to get taught how to defend himself so Young. My mom teaches kindergarten, and she's told me before how boys in her class paint their nails, and play with dolls and nobody bats an eye- this is almost sad, but this surprised me, especially because we're from Idaho. I really hope the best for you, your wife and your son 🏳️🌈
Loved this post. Can’t wait to read more about about your parenthood journey. I’m always not sure what type of queer books to recommend to my students who come out to me and ask for something to read. They’re 13-14 and right now I’m hyping them about Junior High, but if you have other recommendations, I’d love that.
Love to hear the shoutout for 9:30 Club. I’ve seen you live twice, both in DC. The first time was at Anthem for the Con X tour. I was by myself and sat in the first row of the back section which had some pretty good people watching but not a great view of the stage. The second time was at The Lincoln Theater for the High School tour. That time I had a bunch of friends along but we still sat way in the back. This time around I have VIP tickets to the show and I’m meeting up with some diehard fans I met on Twitter who are coming down from Canada, so chances are we will be standing right by the stage. Excited to finally experience that 9:30 magic.
Heh, same! I'll be at the 9:30 club this year. We had some 9:30 love during the Zoom, too heh. For such a small, relatively inaccessible set-up as a wheelchair kid myself, they'll always part the Red Sea for me just to use the bathroom heh. They're my favorite.
Sara- I look forward to hearing about your parenthood journey. As the non gestational parent, it’s nice for me to hear from other non gestational parents. It is a very different and unique role that the Hetero world can never fully understand. While everyone’s parenthood journey is different, there are a lot of shared similar experiences among non gestational parents.
So many great questions! I love the question asking about the producers you've worked with. It's so interesting following your journery and seeing who you've worked with a long the way.
Absolutely enjoyed this post and we will be forever grateful. Sara, you helped create a core memory for our little family as our 2nd grader listened to your advice. Just want to let you know, every morning the phrase "Alexa, play Tegan and Sara walking with a ghost" coming from her room will hold an extra special place in our hearts. Thank you!
Thanks for answering everyone’s questions! It’s good to see you back! I love hearing both you and Tegan read, and as much as I love hearing Tegan read I missed hearing you read posts too!
I didn’t ask another question, but I hope you saw my comment on the questions post?
It was great hearing you talk about all that stuff, thanks for talking about parenthood too, cause I wasn’t sure if you’d tell us much to respect Sid’s privacy, but thanks for still respecting Sid and giving us the info you feel comfortable sharing!
I worry (long down the line) about how binary and hetero parenting is still portrayed. (I’m genderfluid), I’m sure by then 2 mum’s or 2 dad’s won’t seem so uncommon. But nonbinary representation just isn’t there in the media and I’ve never seen a nonbinary parent in tv shows recently (you hardly ever see even a nonbinary character or gay/bi parents represented). Sorry not trying to rant, but you briefly mentioned that in your last post and I think about it a lot. I also think about how there’s no gender neutral mum/dad equivalent, though I have come up with one I like (not sharing on the internet though, maybe in one of my books).
Again, so glad to have you back!
Thanks for making time for us in what seems a very busy schedule.
Wow, great info Sara, I really love Substack. I feel like I'm getting all the inside info, well I am and loving it. Thank You so much for the awesome post, and thanks for taking the time away from Sid to post this. Although the little guy was probably sleeping. See you soon on tour.
❤️. I’m excited for when the graphic novel comes out. I’m a teacher and I am going to buy a few for my class and a few for the older kids who might want to borrow them. Thanks for the great post Sara!
love the easter egg of why it's called superclose! i still have my superclose society patches on a backpack. also as someone born and raised in maryland it bums me out i've never seen you at the 9:30 club! i almost saw you on the con tour there but i was in high school and couldn't go on a weeknight. ofc i've seen you 8 times so can't complain but 9:30 club is indeed a special venue. now living in the south, i've grown to love the fillmore in charlotte and orange peel in asheville
Great questions and answers. The tegan and sara beatlemaniac fan base doesn't disappoint.
Thanks sara. Hope you still have time to record these during your press tour. Loved seeing you guys on Seth Meyers and seeing Yellow performed for the first time. It sounded amazing! The fits were on point too.
Lori- I’m so sorry your kid is going through that. It’s one of my greatest fears as a parent. My 5 year old has already been targeted when he was in pre k. I don’t know if it’s because he has 2 moms, because his nails were done, or because kids are just assholes. My wife and I ended up putting him in Taekwando to help with self esteem and also for him to know how to defend himself. 4 kids tackled him at school and Wouldn’t let him up and kept on doing it until he finally got away. I was a MAD mama bear.
It’s a hard lesson to learn that not everyone is nice. I was bullied in school and I had hoped better for him. It breaks my heart.
How does she feel about things? Have the teachers and other adults addressed the bullying? So they have any inclusive curriculum. I live in Bible Belt Oklahoma where religion teaches that my wife and I are going to hell.
Does your kiddo know anyone else with 2 moms?
I hope things get better for your family. Hugs.
I feel so sorry for everything I read.
I agree kids can be evil and even if being targeted is bad itself, I can't even imagine what a mother could feel when it's their kid's matter.
As a fellow targeted kid back in the days, I can assure you that fear for pain and low battling self esteem have strongly affected my lack of backlash, so I believe that taekwondo can indeed be a good effort.
Wish you all - Lori and kid included - the best!
Hi Rachel! Thank you for your response and sharing your experience as well. It is disheartening to hear this happen all too often with our little innocent humans.
To answer some of your questions, last week ended on a high note for her at school. It warmed her heart to hear Sara's advice (core memory unlocked). Sadly this isn't the first time she has defend herself and/or our family dynamic. The first time was at the tender age of 3 in daycare. We, as her parental unit, had numerous discussions about how to handle these situations as they before birth. It doesn't matter how prepared you are, it still hurts a little.
We have taken them to every pride parade since birth and have introduced them to other little humans with 2 moms. She knows she is loved but we live in an era of discrimination and prejudice being taught at home. May all our little humans find the courage to stand up for what they believe in and never be ashamed to speak of love.
It's sad your kid is getting bullied so early, it's sad he has to get taught how to defend himself so Young. My mom teaches kindergarten, and she's told me before how boys in her class paint their nails, and play with dolls and nobody bats an eye- this is almost sad, but this surprised me, especially because we're from Idaho. I really hope the best for you, your wife and your son 🏳️🌈
Loved this post. Can’t wait to read more about about your parenthood journey. I’m always not sure what type of queer books to recommend to my students who come out to me and ask for something to read. They’re 13-14 and right now I’m hyping them about Junior High, but if you have other recommendations, I’d love that.
Glad you are one of those teachers kids feel safe to come out. Those types of teachers really change peoples lives.
💜💜
Love to hear the shoutout for 9:30 Club. I’ve seen you live twice, both in DC. The first time was at Anthem for the Con X tour. I was by myself and sat in the first row of the back section which had some pretty good people watching but not a great view of the stage. The second time was at The Lincoln Theater for the High School tour. That time I had a bunch of friends along but we still sat way in the back. This time around I have VIP tickets to the show and I’m meeting up with some diehard fans I met on Twitter who are coming down from Canada, so chances are we will be standing right by the stage. Excited to finally experience that 9:30 magic.
Heh, same! I'll be at the 9:30 club this year. We had some 9:30 love during the Zoom, too heh. For such a small, relatively inaccessible set-up as a wheelchair kid myself, they'll always part the Red Sea for me just to use the bathroom heh. They're my favorite.
Sara- I look forward to hearing about your parenthood journey. As the non gestational parent, it’s nice for me to hear from other non gestational parents. It is a very different and unique role that the Hetero world can never fully understand. While everyone’s parenthood journey is different, there are a lot of shared similar experiences among non gestational parents.
So many great questions! I love the question asking about the producers you've worked with. It's so interesting following your journery and seeing who you've worked with a long the way.
Absolutely enjoyed this post and we will be forever grateful. Sara, you helped create a core memory for our little family as our 2nd grader listened to your advice. Just want to let you know, every morning the phrase "Alexa, play Tegan and Sara walking with a ghost" coming from her room will hold an extra special place in our hearts. Thank you!
Hey Sara,
Thanks for answering everyone’s questions! It’s good to see you back! I love hearing both you and Tegan read, and as much as I love hearing Tegan read I missed hearing you read posts too!
I didn’t ask another question, but I hope you saw my comment on the questions post?
It was great hearing you talk about all that stuff, thanks for talking about parenthood too, cause I wasn’t sure if you’d tell us much to respect Sid’s privacy, but thanks for still respecting Sid and giving us the info you feel comfortable sharing!
I worry (long down the line) about how binary and hetero parenting is still portrayed. (I’m genderfluid), I’m sure by then 2 mum’s or 2 dad’s won’t seem so uncommon. But nonbinary representation just isn’t there in the media and I’ve never seen a nonbinary parent in tv shows recently (you hardly ever see even a nonbinary character or gay/bi parents represented). Sorry not trying to rant, but you briefly mentioned that in your last post and I think about it a lot. I also think about how there’s no gender neutral mum/dad equivalent, though I have come up with one I like (not sharing on the internet though, maybe in one of my books).
Again, so glad to have you back!
Thanks for making time for us in what seems a very busy schedule.
Phoenix, he/they/ri/it, 15, Australia
Wow, great info Sara, I really love Substack. I feel like I'm getting all the inside info, well I am and loving it. Thank You so much for the awesome post, and thanks for taking the time away from Sid to post this. Although the little guy was probably sleeping. See you soon on tour.
❤️. I’m excited for when the graphic novel comes out. I’m a teacher and I am going to buy a few for my class and a few for the older kids who might want to borrow them. Thanks for the great post Sara!
These are great Sara thanks. 😊
Cool post. Thanks for these, Sara.
love the easter egg of why it's called superclose! i still have my superclose society patches on a backpack. also as someone born and raised in maryland it bums me out i've never seen you at the 9:30 club! i almost saw you on the con tour there but i was in high school and couldn't go on a weeknight. ofc i've seen you 8 times so can't complain but 9:30 club is indeed a special venue. now living in the south, i've grown to love the fillmore in charlotte and orange peel in asheville
Really enjoyed reading the answers to the questions. Thank you for answering them!
Great questions and answers. The tegan and sara beatlemaniac fan base doesn't disappoint.
Thanks sara. Hope you still have time to record these during your press tour. Loved seeing you guys on Seth Meyers and seeing Yellow performed for the first time. It sounded amazing! The fits were on point too.
oh, how much I love your humor <3
Wow! There were some great questions and your responses were insightful. Thank you for posting.