Sara Answers Community Questions!

Hi Everyone,

Here are some answers to community questions that I loved. Feel free to leave more questions or comments below, and we will continue to answer/respond from time to time! Thank you for the continued support.


1. Curious about the demos that didn’t make albums and the process of how you choose to develop and create ideas?

Have you heard of demoitis? We all get it over here in this camp. Those first THRILLING moments where you land on an idea after hours, days and even weeks of tinkering, and banging your head against the wall (or microphone). That listen back moment where you get goosebumps, because even your skin knows, “this is it.”

It’s hard to recreate the magic of a demo, even when you’re working with experts in a studio, recording what is arguably a far superior version of that song. I believe in the recorded versions but return to the demo the way one might hold a physical item in lieu of look at a photograph of it.

The ever changing technology of digital storage has meant some demos are easier to keep, find and replay, while others have sadly disappeared into a digital black hole.

How do we choose which songs will stay demos forever and which will enter the lexicon of our band? A small pool of trusted, dedicated listeners cast their vote. Democracy at work.

2. Would love to know more about your gender identity past and present. Would love to hear you talk about your experience of your individual gender experience and how you discovered trans identities.

As a child I wanted to look like a boy. According to the written accounts our mother made in our baby books, at 4 years old I was fanatical about the boys in our neighborhood. I wanted to have the same haircut and “parts” as our Dad, and yet, our mother misunderstood this behaviour as me being “boy-crazy.”

She was perplexed but supportive when we cut our hair short, pierced a single ear, and demanded to shop in the boy’s section at the department store where we bought our clothes. It was only our Grandma Rita who warned that we’d end up lesbians if Mom let us dress that way.

Perhaps because there was two of us, our style was treated with deference at school. What might have made us outsiders or targets for bullying, didn’t materialize. Something I attribute to our twin status and self confidence.

In the summer before grade 7 I started to actively present more like a girl and grow my hair out. This was inspired by the growing discomfort I had with being misgendered, but also the early signs that I was attracted to girls. I suppose I felt I would fit in better and could hide what I was feeling about girls if I looked more like one on the outside.

In adulthood, my acceptance of my sexuality and understanding about my gender identity are both a work in progress! I feel good about where I am and how I identify, but its complex, and I make space for that.

3. What kind of people make up your fan base?

Devoted, kind, a good sense of humor, popular outsiders, tender insiders, guys that are into metal, kids who like Lego and our mom.

4. Which artists influenced your most recent writing?

Dehd, Flower of Devotion

Helado Negro, This Is How You Smile

This Shocking Pinks song

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